'The Myth Of The Bad Boy With The Heart Of Gold'

  Was thinking today about all the sisters out there in the world. Seems so many looking for a bad boy with a good heart, like in the movies... But that don't exist.  

  Then when he acts badly toward them they don't understand how he could treat such a good woman so badly.
   Simply answer, "It was in his nature." You can't adopt a wild beast and expect it to behave all the time like a benevolent human being.
   Hollywood romanticizes the bad guy with the heart of gold so often, but in real life if he had a heart of gold he wouldn't be a bad guy.
   If he was secretly a good guy with a heart of gold he'd be volunteering at a community program, reading to children, doing volunteer work, helping the elders, trying to better himself, seeking a more spiritual walk with the Creator...
   Not trying to emulate gangsters, idealizing Al Pacino's 'Scarface' character, getting high, staying lit, packing pistols, trying to act hard all the time (which attracts negativity and drama into ones life) and trying to portray himself as God's gift to women.
   The Bad Guy with a heart of gold is a mythological creature. If you're attracted to bad guys just be honest with yourself and know what you're getting into. Because predators may look cool but they're vicious. When they're human they're called 'Sociopaths'. Everyone, at some point in their life, should do psychological research on the definition of a sociopath.
   I recommend a good psychology book, 'The Sociopath Next Door.' Very enlightening book by an expert in the field.
   Not to pick on guys, because there are plenty of women sociopaths and plenty of guys who have a good heart but are attracted to the bad girl and want to save her from herself and the world.

  They want to take her home and treat her right and then her hidden heart of gold will come forth from behind her hard shell.
   Well, good luck if that is your cup of coffee...Every mistake is a learning experience so just pick ourselves up and carry on to the next mission with more knowledge acquired through experience.
   Assuming we've lived through the mistakes...

Hoo-ah 4 Life,
AnDrew*

'Respected vs. Feared'

"To be respected must never be confused with being feared."


My dad taught me this but I didn't always practice it because society teaches us it often pays to be feared by the more docile or those whom rather avoid trouble.


The man who doesn't fear civil or legal ramifications seems to be freer to impose his will upon others, seems to have more 'friends', and often seems more exciting to women because he feels he can just punch his way out of any trouble or dispute which arises from his brazen and bold behavior, even when he's imposing and disrespectful to others.


He may think others respect him but in reality they fear him or fear getting into trouble because of him so they appease him, try to win his friendship, or avoid him.


"Today's world many men confuse being feared with being respected."


Hoo-ah 4 Life,


AnDrew*

'Thoughts About Our Young Men Today'

"Fathers don't come with a lifetime warranty".

 

   I don't know where I heard this profound statement or exactly when. Unfortunately this is a sad but true statement reflecting the times we live in.
  

  The mother's have the babies so they are left to carry the responsibility while the fathers have the choice to share that responsibility or abandon their descendant/their child, which is a gift from the Creator almighty.
 

  That guy may appear handsome, charming, and masculine but does he have the courage and altruistic love to be a daddy after the romance?
    

  Something our young women should always consider in a guy they have eyes for. But also we parents should consider teaching our sons what truly defines a 'man'. If we don't take the time to instill true manly virtues in our sons they will learn popular culture's idea of a 'man' from mainstream society. And that is a source of many problems in the world today where players, pimps, gangsters, thugs, and womanizers are wrongfully glorified as the pinnacles of manliness in television, movies, and popular music.

 

  We must take time to teach our son's to be real men of responsibility and accountability.
 

  Peace & Many blessings unto you all.      

 

  AnDrew Soldier*